Different Parenting styles and they Repercussions
Your parenting style can affect everything from how much your child weighs to how she feels about herself. It’s important to ensure your parenting style is supporting healthy growth and development because the way you interact with your child and how you discipline her will influence her for the rest of her life.
What is Authoritarian Parenting Style?
Authoritarian parenting is a parenting style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness. Parents have very high expectations of their children, yet provide very little in the way of feedback and nurturance. Mistakes tend to be punished harshly.
Authoritarian parents are famous for saying, “Because I said so,” when a child questions the reasons behind a rule. They are not interested in negotiating and their focus is on obedience.
Authoritarian parents may use punishments instead of discipline. So rather than teach a child how to make better choices, they’re invested in making kids feel sorry for their mistakes.
How this parenting style affects your child?
- Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time. But, their obedience comes at a price.
- Children of authoritarian parents are at a higher risk of development self-esteem problems because their opinions aren’t valued.
- Since authoritarian parents are often strict, their children may grow to become good liars in an effort to avoid punishment.
They may also become hostile or aggressive. Rather than think about how to do things better in the future, they often focus on the anger they feel toward their parents.
What is Authoritative Parenting?
They foster independence and reasoning. They place limits, consequences, and expectations on their children’s behaviour. They express warmth and nurturing. They administer fair and consistent discipline when rules are broken.
Authoritative parents invest time and energy into preventing behaviour problems before they start. They also use positive discipline strategies to reinforce good behaviours, like praise and reward systems. Authoritative parents have rules and they use consequences, but they also take their children’s opinions into account. They validate their children’s feelings, while also making it clear that the adults are ultimately in charge.
How Authoritative parenting style affects your child?
- Children raised with authoritative discipline tend to be happy and successful.
- They’re also more likely to be good at making decisions and evaluating safety risks on their own.
- More likely to become independent, self-reliant, socially accepted, academically successful, and well-behaved.
- Less likely to report depression and anxiety, and less likely to engage in antisocial behaviours like delinquency and drug use.
Researchers have found Kids who have authoritative are more responsible adults and feel comfortable expressing their opinions. Authoritative parenting style is the Best and Ideal Parenting style to thrive for.
Permissive parents tend to be very loving, yet provide few guidelines and rules. These parents do not expect mature behavior from their children and often seem more like a friend than a parental figure. Permissive parents are incredibly lax and rarely make or enforce any type of rules or structure. Their motto is often simply that “kids will be kids.” While they are usually warm and loving, they make little or no attempt to control or discipline their kids. Permissive parents emphasize their children’s freedom rather than responsibility and rarely enforce any type of consequences
How Permissive parenting affects your child?
Researchers have found that the overly relaxed approach to parenting exhibited by permissive parents can lead to a number of negative outcomes such as- Lack of Self-discipline, may feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance, and may be self-involved and demanding.
- Permissive parents have little to no expectations of them, these kids have nothing to strive toward.
- Kids who grow up with permissive parents are more likely to struggle academically.
- Exhibit more behavioral problems as they don’t appreciate authority and rules.
- They often have low self-esteem and may report a lot of sadness.
- They’re also at a higher risk for health problems, like obesity, because permissive parents struggle to limit junk food intake.
- They are even more likely to have dental cavities because permissive parents often don’t enforce good habits, like ensuring a child brushes his teeth.
- Children raised by permissive parents are more likely to engage in misconduct and alcohol or substance use.
- Lack of structure and rules in the home, these kids never learn limits. This might lead to watching too much television, playing too many computer games, and eating too much.
Uninvolved Parenting Style
Uninvolved parents tend to have little knowledge of what their children are doing. They tend to be few rules. Children may not receive much guidance, nurturing, and parental attention. Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time or energy into meeting children’s basic needs. Uninvolved parents lack knowledge about child development. And sometimes, they’re simply overwhelmed with other problems, like work, paying bills, and managing a household.
Effects of uninvolved parenting on your child-
- Children with uninvolved parents are likely to struggle with self-esteem issues.
- They tend to perform poorly in school.
- Behavior problems and rank low in happiness.
- Kids may fear becoming dependent on other people.
- Due to the lack of emotional responsiveness and love from their caretakers, children raised by uninvolved parents may have difficulty forming attachments later in life.
- The children of uninvolved parents generally perform poorly in nearly every area of life.
- Children with uninvolved parents are more likely to misbehave.
Sometimes parents don’t fit into just one category, so don’t despair if there are times or areas where you tend to be permissive and other times when you’re more authoritative. The studies are clear, however, that authoritative parenting is the best parenting style. But even if you tend to identify with other parenting styles more, there are steps you can take to become a more Authoritative parent.
With dedication and commitment to being the best parent you can be, you can maintain a positive relationship with your child while still establishing your authority in a healthy manner. And over time, your child will reap the benefits of your authoritative style.
Researched, edited and rewritten from various sources